Stella Tennant, a beautiful fashion model for many years, has past away in December 2020. How sad to read she couldn’t coop with her life anymore and what reason she might have had to step out of her life, sometimes life can be very hard. Her life definitely lost its glamour. What a shame.
Stella, an “orange” type, like me, just turned 50 when she decided not to be in this world anymore.
What are characteristics of the orange type?
- She expresses herself with great inner and outer peace.
- Can be down in the dumps one minute, and quickly find life fabulous again a little later.
- Loves beautiful clothes and make-up. Making something beautiful in general.
- Wants to put ideas into motion and this quickly creates nervousness.
Covid 19 and the year 2020 was not a nice year. For lots of people.
And when you turn 50, or becoming menopausal, life can be extra difficult.
For me becoming 50 was like hell. I really admit. But fortunately for me, it took me only one day. I was menopausal already many years, so I had already my worst ups and downs, but turning into 50 was frightened. Accepting yourself and loving yourself thus becomes increasingly difficult, because the constant pursuit of the other you, you have been for years, only increases your insecurity. For orange types it is mostly the first time they see their bodies changing by gaining weight, as in the past they could eat what they want and . And ask theirselves, am I still interesting for the world? This is frustrating, tiring and bad for your health.
But not only these magic numbers of age or menopause can make you feel down.
A lack of understanding by looking at yourself but especially by looking at others. The other who is seemingly perfect and constantly forced upon you through various media, whether we like it or not.
Accepting yourself and loving yourself thus becomes increasingly difficult, because the constant pursuit of the other only increases your insecurity. The current outer and inner ideal does not tolerate differences. This is frustrating, tiring and bad for your health.
For example, we ask ourselves how it’s possible that one person can easily eat a lot and remain as thin as a rail, while another gains weight just by looking at food. This causes many people to struggle with their body and mind. Noses, breasts, eyes, butt – yes, even butts are given a lift today – ribs are removed and we’re bombarded by one diet after another. Through social media we even play another person. We present not only a more idealised version of our appearance, but also of who we are inside. More adventurous, playful, exciting, smart, and so on.
Drastic diets and surgery only serve to further strengthen this insecurity. We pay little attention to the impact this could have on our body and mind. Because what exactly is “beautiful”? “Slim”, “beautiful”, “perfect”: these are all subjective concepts. They mean different things to different people.
How can we be unique and authentic if we continue to chase “the other” in terms of behaviour and appearance? I’ve never understood this contradiction. Are people who deviate from the current (beauty) ideal not good enough for the outside world? Can’t they just be pure? Of course they can! And together, we women can make this clear to the outside world.
Every feature, both physical and mental, has advantages and disadvantages. It’s precisely your unique set of features that makes you the ideal girlfriend, woman, colleague or business partner. A good example is the unique vocal sound of the English artist Adele, a sound that’s a global hit. Or the unique drive of the Dutch athlete Dafne Schippers, which made it possible for her, despite her large build, to break numerous sprinting records. And don’t forget the young Pakistani Nobel Peace laureate Malala, who wants to make the world a better place. They are inspiring role models to me because they do not hide their unique features, but honour them.
When I tell people that I was once very shy and insecure, often they don’t believe me at first. Insecurity has long dominated my life. I wasn’t only mentally affected, but even physically. At a certain point I was fed up. I went looking for methods that could help me get rid of my insecurity and the complaints I’d developed as a result. I discovered that insecurity occurs even in those who appear to have the strongest personalities, and that we subsequently insufficiently appreciate ourselves.
I sold myself short as a result of my insecurity, but it did teach me a lot. I’ve overcome doubts, fear of failure, and even physical complaints. You can do the same if you begin to appreciate your pure self as it is, by knowing how to strengthen your unique attributes, talents and beauty, as well as how to use them. So that you are also seen as beautiful, talented and successful, by yourself and others. By doing so we’ll show the world a new ideal: your own ideal!
Stella Tennant was a 28/10. Like me, a 1 in her number. I am a 38/11
1. Creativity and Self-Confidence
- You’re sometimes lacking in self-confidence to show the outside world who you really are. This means that the creativity that lies hidden within you isn’t able to be properly expressed. Look for who you really are. Rather, dare to admit your true colours and show them to the world. Your creative talent will then naturally express itself more, which will allow you to gain more self- knowledge and self-confidence.
- Your body can become blocked because you are insufficiently expressing your creativity. This can manifest itself in lower abdominal pain or stomach complaints. The lower back can also be a sensitive spot and often requires attention in the form of abdominal and back exercises or by resting. Solution? Don’t doubt yourself. Start designing, writing, speaking, acting, painting, making music and being creative with your mind and hands. Try to overcome your insecurity.
I started making my own music and videos at age of 56. And I can tell you, I really thank Covid-19 for this, as it gave me the opportunity to slow down and find my other talents.
I want you to be your own guru and begin to believe in yourself. You are responsible for your own body, for taking care of it, as well as for your thoughts and your choices. Is your glass filled half full or half empty?
The strength to want to change or to accept yourself is therefore in your hands. Life can be very good, only by knowing really who you are.
So take place in your driver seat and….
live the life you were born to live!
Have a great weekend.